Parents fail because they are - Not Conscience
I remember having a portable stereo (boom box) when I was a kid. Yes, they're obsolete now, but back then everybody had one. The main feature on a boom box was the dual cassette player (also obsolete). With a cassette player, you had a record button. You could record a song right off of the radio or even make a copy of another tape. But one of the funnest things was to record somebody talking or singing. Especially when they didn't know you were doing it. The one thing I learned was that the tape recorder was unbiased in it's job. It would only record what it heard. Nothing more and nothing less.
Children are like little tape recorders. Whatever they see and hear they do. Even though we know it, we still have some crazy idea that our children won't act like us. I know that they have their own personalities but, many of the things they pick up is from us. You need to be conscience of what you're doing around them because the tape recorder of their mind is always recording.
Be conscience of what you say to your spouse. If they hear you react or talk in a negative way toward each other then that is the way they think it's supposed to be. A wife that talks back to her husband has children that backtalk their parents. A father who snaps every time something doesn't go his way has children with temper problems as well. Be conscience, even when you are kidding around with your spouse. Once, my wife & I were play wrestling and one of our children told someone that we were fighting. You have to be aware of these kind of things. Your children may not be able to discern what it is they have seen or heard.
Wake up! Take a good and honest look at your children. Naturally, there are things that are inherent in them. But, if you see a character trait developing that you know is not pleasing to the Lord then you need to check up. You need to take a look at you and your spouse. You need to ask the question, "Have they learned this from me". If they have, don't deny it. That will fix nothing! Make the adjustment in you, apologize to your children for your actions, and give them a Christlike pattern they can record. Be Conscience.
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